Successful marriages fascinate me and I think there are some parallels to be drawn between successful marriages on the personal side of life and successful coaching relationships on the business side of life. Let’s face it, it’s hard work to maintain any kind of satisfying relationship in this day and age. There are so many forces working against us. One thing I know for sure is that those involved in successful relationships work really hard at it. They take very little for granted.
When I think of some of the most successful marriages out there, I see three common denominators that contribute to the success and longevity of the relationship. I think these same factors need to be present when we are acting as coaches for our employees.
- In successful relationships, whether they are marriages or coaching relationships, there needs to be mutual respect. Those involved need to recognize that our differences are what make us special. Respect lays the groundwork for communication, growth, and trust in relationships.
- Those involved in successful relationships also recognize that it’s important to go through the work of being in the relationship –side by side. Those you mentor need to know that you have their best interest at heart. As a coach, you need to know that your advice and counsel will be taken seriously. A sense of partnership is critical.
- Finally, relationships become successful because the parties work to spend time together. What this means in a coaching situation is that both parties hold their coaching obligations sacred, never allowing other appointments to get in the way of spending the time together intended to help all involved to succeed and grow.
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